October 22, 2010

All Girl

When the twins were in the NICU I made the comment one day that Allie was surprisingly "girlish." I had just assumed that all babies came out characteristically the same and then sort of evolve into being "boyish" or "girlish" as they get older, but every noise she made was soft and sweet while Ryan made lots of loud grunts. She loved to throw her hand up against her forehead like a damsel in distress and purse her little lips. There were so many, some indescribable, attributes that were so incredibly "girlish" - especially compared to Ryan's similar "boyish" characteristics - that I was dumbfounded. The nurse just commented to me "You would be surprised how much of that is innate." She was right.
Friends, I am not the girliest girl. My clothes are not what anyone could consider fashionable. In fact I often stick to neutrals (a.k.a. black & khaki) with a few pops of color so I don't have to worry about matching. I don't often wear accessories (I LIKE them, I just don't often have time for them), or makeup, or do my hair. I don't necessarily like shopping. I can't figure out what I would possibly do with more than 1 or 2 handbags (and have 6 or so in my closet that I try to remember to rotate through, but often forget). I do love shoes, but have never had the money to spend and so generally avoid their siren call. And this is how I can attest to the fact that my daughter has not had a particularly fashionable or accessory laden example to emulate.
This said, my daughter has an intense love of all things accessory. The first thing she does in the morning is find shoes to wear (usually her rain boots or her new boot-like slippers since her few other pairs are kept in the mudroom). She is convinced that just about everything can be turned into a hat, and (in fact) her very first sentence was "isa hat!" Mixing bowls, building blocks, felt shapes, and even her almost empty oatmeal bowl all become hats on a daily basis. And bracelets are the new thing. The links that were once purely practical, and primarily used for me to attach toys, snack traps, or sippy cups to the stroller are now purely ornamental as they make perfect bracelets. Daily she brings me headbands and bows to put in her hair. She will choose shoes over toys in a heartbeat, carrying them around and hugging them. Necklaces, scarves, even stickers ornament my daughter daily.
"But," as the Cat in the Hat would say "That is not all, oh, no! That is not all..." She loves to dance
and twirl - often on dainty tiptoes. She loves to sing in a soft, high voice. Her sounds of excitement are squeals and trills. She is drawn to all things sparkly, and the other day she got so excited when she saw a picture of Tinkerbell and some other fairies (although, as far as I know, she had never seen a picture of Tinkerbell, or any fairy, before). I certainly wasn't keeping her from these things, I just didn't think she would have an interest quite yet, but now I'm wondering if I should be suggesting princess dresses and play jewelry for her for Christmas... She is, most definitely, ALL girl!
I must confess that her love for accessories has made me want to wear them more often, and she certainly has begun to influence my daily appearance...slightly...and for the better. But, I'm not sure that I will ever be able to keep up with her intense love for accessories. I think we may be calling on auntie Min for backup in the future :)

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have felt that same way from the first time we seen Allie. She had such a quiet way about her even though I know she can let everyone know when she wants to be heard. Yesterday we were at Peebles and they had one little pair of Princess Pink Winter Boots on a 80% off rack...they were $35 and the sale and my 20% coupon brought them down to nothing and when I saw they were sz5-6 ...well you know the rest of the story. Even with all the girl cousins I think Ry shows who will roar the loudest!! Bless his heart. Hugs from Nana

Anonymous said...

Kim, what a sweet blog! Allie is really blossoming. You are right. You are going to have to get with a little fashion to keep up with your daughter! But then why--you are very charming just as you are. Grandpa wants the computer for business. Better let him have it--bye, Grandma

Anonymous said...

I think the "Silly Mommy" blog shows that Ry Guy is ALL BOY!! Nana

Anonymous said...

I couldn't agree more. I saw that in the nicu too they are wonderfully made individuals and couldn't bring more joy into our lifes then they do. Thank you Lord for these two precious children you have brought into our lifes. Gigi